So when Anthony and I started dating, I was friends with a girl who in hindsight, was not who I thought she was. She was manipulative, controlling, and mean. Unfortunately, I didn't see it and I let her toxicity control me. I wanted a friend so bad I would believe all her lies and let her treat me poorly. Something that set me off was when I was seeking advice from her when Anthony asked me to move in with him. I was confused on what I should do. Our relationship was still new and I didn't want to ruin our relationship. When I asked her about what she thought, she yelled at me and told me my problems weren't important she was dealing with so much more than I. Turns out, her Grandmother had just passed away. I was understanding of her loss, but I still didn't think she needed to treat me so poorly. When things calmed down, I asked her opinion again. As expected she didn't answer me. I had to make this decision on my own with no input from anybody else, so I decided to move in with Anthony. I was scared shitless when I did, but I knew I had to take a risk. Not only that, if things didn't work out, I would still have a place to live. A month had passed and she decided to text me and ask how things were going. I was happy to hear from her because I missed her. I told her that I moved in with Anthony and I had expected a congratulatory response, but what I got was a scolding. She started asking me a lot of questions: "How does it make you feel knowing his ex wife slept in the same bed?" "Imagine how many women he has slept with in that bed." "What number are you?" She made feel insecure about my choice, and I started to doubt that I had made the right decision. Her words stuck with me for several months and even caused issues in my relationship. I was struggling a lot with life in general, but it feels she made things worse. She ghosted me for several months. The last time I ever talked to her was when we ran into each other at Range Cafe. She had asked me if I had found a new job yet, and I had so much built up anger towards her I told her in a rude manner, "NO!" Then she yelled at me: "Why are you always so angry?!" We haven't spoken since. There are times I miss hearing from her, but I remember that she is not a good match for me. I'm friends with her mom and see how she is doing, I am happy she is successful. Just because she did me wrong, doesn't mean I have to hate her. I wish you the best, dear. Much love.
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