Throughout my life, I have had a number of best friends. Each of these women has taught me something different that I have never forgotten. Even if I and these women are no longer close they all still have a special place in my heart. I recently wrote in my journal about each lesson I learned from each person I once called my best friend, and after some reflection, I've decided to share these lessons with you all. My first best friend was Faith. Faith and I were inseparable from elementary school to the start of middle school. She and I shared a number of first with each other. She and I went on several vacations together and spent every day with each other. We were always quick to put each other in check when the other was being a jerk. She was not one to back down. In 7th grade, Faith and her family moved away. She and I had started to drift apart before she moved and I thought when she moved it wouldn't affect me but I was completely wrong. I missed Faith terribly but that was when I learned my first lesson. The lesson Faith taught me was to enjoy the time with the people you care about because your time together is short. She and I reconnected a few years ago and I'm grateful for having done so. Next was Crystal. Crystal and I were friends from middle school to the start of high school. Similar to my relationship with Faith, Crystal and I were inseparable. She introduced me to Anime and other amazing fandoms. She is a year older than me but she is wise for her age. Something I've always admired about Crystal was her compassion. She was not one to judge or mistreat you for whatever ailed you. Crystal and I had a falling out in the 9th grade because I was a depressed, jealous 9th grader who blamed everyone else for their problems. I confided in her that I was suicidal and the next day she went and told our guidance counselor. At the time, I was furious she would betray my trust and rat me out. I was required to go to therapy and I was put on suicide watch. It was hell. But after some time I realized the lesson she taught me. Crystal taught me the value of my own life. If it hadn't been for her, I would probably be dead. I cannot thank her enough for saving my life. Dorothy is my favorite loudmouth, band geek. Dorothy and I met in the 10th grade. We had a few classes together and we instantly connected. Dorothy and I have the same personality. We really don't like people, however, we both have huge hearts. Dorothy was one of the people who helped me get through my depression in high school. She and I were always cracking jokes. She could make me laugh even when I was so not in the mood. We did begin to drift apart when I got into a relationship but even though we didn't spend every second together she still had my back and I still had hers. In our time apart I realized the lesson she taught me. Dorothy taught me that a great sense of humor can get you through almost anything. To this day, we laugh about the stupidest things and I'm grateful for it. Lastly, I want to talk about Adele. She and I met in our Psych 200 tutoring sessions. We bonded over our struggle of the subject and our crush on the tutor. We went weekly and those tutoring sessions paid off because we both aced the course. We were both Psych majors so we took other classes together and our friendship blossomed. What I loved about Adele was she was (and still is) very blunt. She wasn't afraid to call you out on your crap. Well, at that time, I was still engaged, to my now, ex-fiance. He was in the Navy and he came to visit while he was on leave. I wasn't on school break at the time he was visiting, so when I went on my lunch break he came to UNM to visit. We had lunch at McDonald's and I couldn't wait to introduce him to Adele. I introduced them and even though she was nice, she could tell he was bad news for me. Well, after a few bad months he and I broke up. Then Adele was real with me that she saw some serious red flags in our relationship but rather than ruin my happiness she kept it quiet. I was grateful for her doing that because knowing me, I would have told her off. Well, when I started dating my current boyfriend, Anthony, Adele immediately noticed a difference in my relationship. She told me she saw huge differences from my ex to Anthony. She saw that Anthony actually made me happy. Something I hadn't felt with my ex in a long time. After learning that Adele (a girl I had only known for less than a year) saw the huge red flags from my relationship and respected me enough to tell me when she knew I could handle it, I knew then I could trust her. It was then I learned my lesson from her. Adele taught me to seek what I need from all my relationships and never settle for anything less. To this day, I am actively seeking what I need from people and working to ensure my needs are met. She doesn't live in New Mexico anymore but whenever we visit with one another we pick up right where we left off. Each of these amazing women taught me a valuable lesson and I am grateful for each and every one of them. Without these lessons I wouldn't be the woman I am today, so thank you ladies you will forever have a special place in my heart!
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