For the past three years, I've had an ongoing battle with Anthony's best friend. He and I are too much alike in our strong personalities and we usually butt heads. Well, for the past four or five months Anthony and his friend weren't speaking. I was relieved because that was one less thing to stress about. I personally feel that when he and Anthony are together this person says bad things about me and Anthony won't defend me because he doesn't like conflict. I can usually tolerate his best friend when he is sober, but the second he starts drinking things take a turn for the worst. He has treated me poorly from the get-go. I'm no saint I've made my fair mistakes too and I live with them every day. I thought we had gotten over something stupid I did to him three years ago, but every time he is slightly inebriated he brings it up and makes me feel awful. I've tried and tried to make peace with him because when it comes down to it, he's Anthony's best friend and he's not going anywhere. But the fact of the matter is, you can't make peace with someone who wants war. It was a nice few months not having to see him or hear from him. I felt at peace and that things were going in the right direction. Well, he called Anthony the other day and I have to accept that he's back in our life. I'm no longer going to try to get this guy to like me. He clearly doesn't. I'm simply going to be civil and keep my distance. He's damaged my mental health enough. I'm sick of being the bigger person. I'm doing what's best for me now.
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